Essay: EGO VS HUMANS

“It is not about who's better in proving a point. It is about how good you are in controlling your ego,” a piece of thoughtful advice from my classmate. That advice is a meaningful one. That statement ruled me on my every action. It becomes one of my life guides in associating people. But first, do you know what is ego? Do you have any idea on how it affects your relationship with others? Can you say how high or low your ego is? Can you manage it by associating your fellowmen? Do you ever mind your ego?

What is ego? Every time I’m hearing the word “ego”, there’s something always goes on my mind, the term “better”. It is the opinion that you have about yourself, according to my dictionary. It is synonymous with your pride and self-esteem. It is how you see yourself as better and more important than others. It is only your own thinking that minds how others look at you. It is the thing in your mind that always matters in dealing with others. We all have different egos. Each one of us has their own pride and we all have a different level of self-esteem. 

“Ego prevents people from asking.” It may be that way or the other way around. Most people avoid asking because they think that it will lessen their ego. They think that it will affect their reputation and self-image when they ask inferior people but it won’t. It’s just their ego which prevents them. 

“Ego prevents people from sharing.” Your ego tells you that you have the pride to keep. It prevents you from sharing what you know because you think that you’re a superior so you must act that way. You just let inferior people find what they want without helping because you thought that it will affect your ego but it won’t. Giving a helping hand to people lower than you won’t give a negative effect to your ego instead it will boost yours. It’s just our ego which prevents us from doing so. 

“Ego prevents people from trusting.” Yes, ego avoids us from trusting people we know. Our peers and colleagues are the ones closest to us but our ego prevents us from trusting them. How? There’s something in our mind that tells us that we shall not give our trust to everyone even to the people we know the longest. 

“Ego prevents people from giving.” As I’ve said above, it prevents us from sharing what we know and it also prevents us from giving what we have. It’s our ego that tells us that we shall not give anything to the people lower than us. There’s nothing wrong with sharing what we know and giving what we have. It’s only our ego that prevents us from doing it. It’s alright to share what we have to give. It won’t affect us; it will only affect our ego. 

In every action we’re doing, it will always affect our ego. There’s always a positive and negative effect on our ego. Having a very high ego is having a very conscious mind that leads to exaggeration. If we can’t manage our own ego then our ego itself will control us in every action we’re making. It will dictate us from what we must do even it will affect others badly. It will make us be selfish because we’re only thinking about ourselves. If we let our egos pass through our mind then it will change everything. 

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TBWS

September 24, 2014